When a child is struggling, it’s easy to assume “won’t”.
But often it’s can’t yet — a skill gap + overload.
Tell the difference — and respond without escalating — so you can stop the power struggle and help your child calm faster.
Especially helpful for:
Mealtimes • getting out the door • bedtime • shopping/public places
The 60-second check that changes what you do in the moment 💛
In this mini guide you’ll learn:
how to tell defiance vs overload fast
what to do when it’s “can’t yet” (support + simplify)
what to do when it’s “won’t” (boundaries without power struggles)
You’re not failing 💛 Your child isn’t broken
P.S. I’m creating a mini workshop on spotting the “before” signs — you’ll get updates automatically.