Behavior is Communication: It's Important to Know How to Decode What Your Child is Really Telling You.
Every parent faces moments when their child’s behavior feels like a mystery or a challenge. But here’s the truth: behavior is communication. Your child isn’t acting out just to frustrate you - they’re trying to tell you something important.
That’s where the CARE Formula comes in. It’s a simple, powerful way to decode what your child’s behavior is really saying beneath the surface. This formula is the foundation of my upcoming course and the heart of my ebook Tantrum Or Meltdown - and it starts with one key idea:
Behavior is a Clue, Not a Problem
Your child’s behavior isn’t random - it’s their way of communicating an unmet need, even if they can’t put it into words. When you start seeing meltdowns, withdrawal, or defiance as signals instead of “bad behavior,” you shift from reacting to understanding and solving.
Here’s how to reframe behavior as a message you can decode:
Pause and Observe: Instead of reacting, ask yourself, “What is my child really trying to tell me? Are they overwhelmed, tired, or scared?” Behavior is often just the tip of the iceberg.
Look for Patterns: Notice when and where behaviors happen. Are noisy places triggering meltdowns? These patterns reveal what your child needs.
Ask, “What’s Missing?”: Is your child craving comfort, predictability, or safety? That missing piece is the key.
Imagine your child throws their pencil in frustration over homework. Instead of labeling it defiance, ask: Are they overwhelmed? Afraid of failing? Distracted? Maybe they need the task broken down or a quiet space to focus.
This mindset shift is the foundation for everything I teach in my course and the heart of the ebook.. If you’re ready to stop the frustration and start understanding your child on a deeper level, grab your copy of Tantrum Or Meltdown today and discover the full CARE Formula.